Dear Sober Curious Humans,

When I used to drink alcohol, I wondered if I was a problem drinker.

Nope, scratch that.

When I used to drink alcohol, I sought out those who drank more than me. It made me feel better about myself when I found these types of people. They had a problem. Not me. It made me relax and continue drinking as I did. This was also during a time when I could say “nope, I’m done drinking for the night I’ll just have water now , thank you,” and I would feel proud of myself. I’d smirk to myself keeping close eye on the other drinkers who’d pass my level of intoxication. “Oh yeah, I got this, no problem,” as if I was better than them.

I really loved drinking alcohol. “Numbing out” made everything easier for me. It was my magic “forget” button. It was “I am bored” activity.  I could easily turn just about anything that happened in my life into a reason to drink. But I needed to feel like there was nothing wrong with how I drank, so I always stayed close to people who drank like me. I would hide in their presence. Nobody would notice how much I was consuming if I clung to others like myself. I would travel in their pack and blend in. I was sneaky that way.

By my late 30’s I was beyond blending in with the pack. The amount of alcohol I consumed progressed rapidly and I was changing. I was irritated by the people who I used to count on to drink like me. I watched them slipping away into the “responsible adult world.” They could manage their alcohol consumption. They could control themselves and I resented them for it. I equally hated seeing the wobbly, word -slurring drinkers because it was like I was looking in a mirror.

When I wasn’t drinking I was annoyed that I wasn’t drinking and obsess about when I could drink again. While I was drinking, I would tell myself “just one more” over and over. Then, as I would get to the last few sips, I told myself, “this is the last one.”

It never was.

As time went on, I tried many different ways to control my drinking. It drove me mad that I couldn’t control my drinking. Weekends were lost to massive hangovers. Soon, week days were lost to massive hangovers.

Towards the end of my drinking career, I would wake up saying “today is the day I am going to stop.” But it never was. I was embarrassed and ashamed. I was incredibly successful at self-loathing and self pity.

But one day I woke up and it WAS the last day. It was the last day because I literally gave up.  I was half relieved, half pissed.

Honestly, I never wanted to get to this place. For most of my life, drinking was my security blanket. I was resentful of the fact that I could not manage my alcohol consumption like a normal person.

I found a recovery program that works for me, and a therapist to help me. I have been sober for nearly 8 years. I never thought I would be able to live a life with out drinking alcohol. I have changed in ways I never anticipated.

I am relieved that I don’t have to waste so much time figuring out when I will drink.

I am relieved that I am not a slave to the obsessive thoughts of getting drunk.

I am relieved that I get to wake up every day with out a horrid hangover.

I used to be an excellent Project Manager of my alcohol consumption, but now, with the help of others, I am an excellent Project Manager of my recovery.

For me, I needed to stop drinking because it took over my entire life. Alcohol was the most important thing in my life. I don’t miss it at all. Today, my recovery is the most important thing in my life. Placing that as first priority, makes everything else in my life easier. I love my life today and how I can handle the normal ups and downs of life with out drinking. I love how I have the opportunity to share the hope in recovery on my Sober Gratitudes podcast.

Have you had your fill, yet? Are you tired of hiding in the pack? Are you sick of hangovers and regretful behaviors? Yeah, I was too.

There is another way to live that is more comfortable and more manageable. If you feel the way I did, recovery is possible. And you don’t have to do it alone. People are waiting to help you.

It is that simple. All you have to do is ask for help.

5 thoughts on “Dear Sober Curious Humans,

    1. Paige, Thank you for sharing your thoughts on my blog/podcast site. I’m so so happy that my honesty helped you. Getting sober was the best thing I ever did for myself. I am a better person, mom, wife, friend…etc. I feel better about myself today. I am so grateful for my sobriety, so I decided to add a podcast to my website. on my podcast I have a new guest every week who shares their story. There are so many inspiring recovery stories out there and people want to share how grateful they are for a changed life. Please check out my podcast for more inspiring stories! all the best to you and stay in touch….. Warmly, Sarah


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